Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for abandoning your own needs, desires amd core values.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for making compromises that turned into red flags.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for settling into convenience and practicality.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for living a fantasy of near enoughs, potentials and maybes.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for becoming someone you're not.
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
Forgive yourself for accepting less than you deserve
But don't do it again.
~ self love
Friday, December 25, 2015
Sunday, October 11, 2015
Between The Fall and The Creation, The Pleasure and The Pain.
“This, then, is the human problem:
there is a price to be paid for every increase in consciousness.
We cannot be more sensitive to pleasure without being more sensitive to pain.
By remembering the past we can plan for the future.
But the ability to plan for the future is offset by the "ability"
to dread pain and to fear of the unknown.
Furthermore, the growth of an acute sense of the past and future
gives us a corresponding dim sense of the present.
In other words, we seem to reach a point where the advantages of being conscious
are outweighed by its disadvantages, where extreme sensitivity makes us unadaptable.”
"Inevitably we will be asked to tend to the heart as it breaks in response to a life
and a world that is simultaneously devastating as it is precious.
Tending to the broken does not necessarily require that we mend the heart,
for this may not be what it truly wants.
If we listen, it will tell us whether it needs to be repaired or
whether it is longing for something else.
At times, the invitation is to fall to the ground in response to the pain,
in surrender to the darkened magnificence of it all.
Awestruck at the light hidden there and the bounty that has been laid out before us.
To allow ourselves to fall apart.
To fail.
To get back up.
To be humbled again.
To start over.
To be a beginner.
To realize we are and always will be an amateur at the ways of love.
Unsure and uncertain as to what this life is asking of us or why we’re here.
But somehow we open more, and break more, and close, only to open, break, and close yet again.
To make this journey with our fellow travelers, and the sun, the moon, and the stars.
And realize together how little we know in the face of it all.
But in the core of this unknowing,
in the embodiment to that level of majesty and creativity,
somehow it is enough, more than enough that we have been given."
Matt Licata
and a world that is simultaneously devastating as it is precious.
Tending to the broken does not necessarily require that we mend the heart,
for this may not be what it truly wants.
If we listen, it will tell us whether it needs to be repaired or
whether it is longing for something else.
At times, the invitation is to fall to the ground in response to the pain,
in surrender to the darkened magnificence of it all.
Awestruck at the light hidden there and the bounty that has been laid out before us.
To allow ourselves to fall apart.
To fail.
To get back up.
To be humbled again.
To start over.
To be a beginner.
To realize we are and always will be an amateur at the ways of love.
Unsure and uncertain as to what this life is asking of us or why we’re here.
But somehow we open more, and break more, and close, only to open, break, and close yet again.
To make this journey with our fellow travelers, and the sun, the moon, and the stars.
And realize together how little we know in the face of it all.
But in the core of this unknowing,
in the embodiment to that level of majesty and creativity,
somehow it is enough, more than enough that we have been given."
Matt Licata
Saturday, August 22, 2015
Into The Deep Blue, I Can Only Be.
You seem to have some doubts about yourself,
whereas I don’t have doubts about you.
I have no doubts about what you are.
Maybe even ‘wonderful’ is too small a word for what you are. There’s no word… it is indescribable.
There’s a great peace here, but it’s not just peace.
It’s more than peace. It’s more than free.
I can say what I’m not, but what I am I cannot say,
I can only be.
Thursday, July 16, 2015
Surrender To Waves of Truth as Slow Shift Happens...
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| via Raw Edge Photography ~ Seal Rocks Light House NSW. |
“Many people feel either it is their destiny to realize the Self or not.
But the Self has no destiny.
Boom!
Who is saying, ‘If it is in my destiny to discover the Self, it will happen?’
This one is not real.
If you would really listen to what I am saying and what I am pointing to, you would save yourselves lifetimes of effort and suffering.
However, if you have a secret commitment to preserving yourself as a person, Self-inquiry will not help you. Surrender to your own Nature, Truth,
Can you imagine meeting with God and knowing there is nothing you could say that would make him upset with you?
And when you know you cannot do anything to change his love for you, then many suppressed feelings leave you.
Nothing to be offended, nothing to judge, nothing to forgive nor to heal.
Nothing has ever been remembered of anything wrong you think you ever did.
I tell you that you don't have to imagine this, because it is true.
People worry and say,
'Man, you really don't know what kind of thoughts I have.'
They are only terrible because you think they are yours and that there is a 'you' who thinks them.
You have to surrender everything on the table of Truth.
If there is still a problem, your incomplete Self is reminding you of what still needs to surrender.
You cannot surrender and have anything hidden behind your back.
Open minds, open hearts, Reveal all in Truth” ~ Mooji
Thursday, May 14, 2015
Are you A "Love and Light", "Pleasant and Nice" Bypass Junky?
“These mountains that you’re carrying,
you were only supposed to climb.”
Najwa Zebian
Is Happiness overrated?
“Good vibes only” is just plain laziness.
Get out from underneath the burden of needing to be
happy and positive all the time.
That’s too much weight to be carrying around.
Take it easy on yourself.
Stop being so damn serious.
Especially about happiness, positivity, and love.
You’re not perfect and you never will be.
Neither will anybody else.
...
Your “love & light” could use a little “grit & darkness.”
Forcing yourself to be positive and happy all the time is just an ego trap
set up by the scared-shitless part of you that doesn’t want to face the
shitty, shadowy, scary side of life.
It’s a strategic safezone propped up by cowardice and weakness.
Stop sugarcoating bullshit.
Stop demonizing sadness.
You cannot be happy all the time.
Happiness, like sadness, is a passing storm across the sky of the Self.
Some storms are refreshing and invigorating, like happiness.
Some are painful and rough, like sadness.
Both can be overwhelming.
But both are merely information.
They just happen to be information that you “feel.”
As far as information goes,
pain and sadness will teach you more
pain and sadness will teach you more
than comfort and happiness ever will.
Use that information to make yourself healthier
and happiness becomes a convenient bi-product of your self-improvement.
and happiness becomes a convenient bi-product of your self-improvement.
The best you can do is hope for the best and be prepared for the worst.
And nothing prepares you for the worst better than the
vital information gleaned from pain and sadness.
And then you remember to Laugh Your Sweet Arse off
and appreciate The Great Cosmic Joke
That Nobody Really Knows Anything.
So give up control and simply feel
and embrace and embody the full flow of this\
crazy magical thing called Life.
That Nobody Really Knows Anything.
So give up control and simply feel
and embrace and embody the full flow of this\
crazy magical thing called Life.
Choose Care,
Fully,
The Mountains Worth Climbing
The Seas Worth Swimming
And The Fire Worth Breathing
And Love The Absolute F$%K
out of your discerning conscious choices.
Grateful Growth Home.
for Every Thing Truthfully Direct and Everything Real.
Thursday, March 19, 2015
Rewire Ancient Scripts
"The next time you find yourself looping in self-attack, disconnected with your body, and spinning in shame, blame, and complaint... slow down.
Feel your feet on the earth.
Breathe deeply from the lower belly.
Return to your senses in the here and now.
Come out of the seductive, sticky, compelling story line for just a moment and send your awareness into the centre of the vulnerable, tender, raw life that is surging to be held.
Go slowly, pushing yourself a bit, testing your window of tolerance but taking care not to fall into overwhelm.
Cut through the momentum of self-abandonment and descend into the core.
Make the journey out of self-aggression and into the slower circuitry of empathy, curiosity, kindness, and space.
Stay close.
Be a friend to yourself.
Provide sanctuary and safe passage for the visitor to be illuminated, held, and transformed, for in a moment of activation you need yourself more than ever.
While the temptation is to turn from the shaky center, it is an act of love to step off the battlefield and tend to the fire.
Your torso is aglow with sacred data required for the way ahead and is a portal of unimaginable creativity.
As you give yourself this gift of radical self-compassion, presence, and slow spacious awareness, you can ask:
what is it that I need right now?
What is most needing to be met and held?
What have I abandoned in myself?
What is being asked to be touched, right here and right now, with a storm of loving kindness?
Can I breathe into and with what has come, not as an enemy to transcend or overcome, but an ally of the depths?
As you slow down and turn in, seeds of empathy are planted in your nervous system, watered with new forms of self-care as compassion pathways are grooved and brought alive.
Suddenly there is so much space.
Breath where none was to be found.
You are already held by something vast.
Through this aspiration to no longer abandon yourself, you come back into your power, grounded and embodied in the reality and perception of the warrior, a warrior of love, come here not only to heal yourself but as a vessel of presence and transmutation for all beings."
by Matt Licata
Saturday, February 14, 2015
Sufi Love And The Open Heart
A Sufi's perspective on Love and relating
By J Disabatino
Sufism and the four layers of the heart
A Sufi is someone who has made a total commitment to return to the One by traveling the path of the heart, the path of love.
Sufis are experts on the inner landscape of the heart.
Sufis say it is only in the awakened heart that we can begin to taste and experience our true divine nature.
The great Sufi mystics of the past gave us a model or map of the heart’s road that leads back to the Source.
Early writers such as al-Hakim al –Timiridh describes four primary layers of the heart, and subsequent writers elaborated on the 28 “stations” or subdivisions of the four primary layers of the heart.
For the sake of simplicity, I have found the “four-layers of the heart” model to be an extremely useful and timeless spiritual perspective on all aspects of my life, especially for understanding relationships.
Put simply, the four layers of the heart are as follows:
Layer 1: the uppermost layer of the heart, or the ego self. Layer 1 is where the ego is rooted in the heart; it is the emotional underpinnings of the ego. We all need a healthy ego to function in the world but the downside comes from the ego needing to be in control, to dominate, criticize, put itself first, to grasp and horde. The Sufi word for the lower tendencies of the ego is “the nafs”. The ego uses emotions from the surface layer of the heart—such as anger, jealousy, fear—to fuel and justify its limited and separative view of itself and the world.
The ego also has a higher side—the rational mind with its capacity for logic and objectivity. The rational mind can hold and reflect a certain degree of spiritual light, according to the Sufis, if it is connected to the deeper layers of the heart.
Layer 2: the inner heart. In Arabic, the word for heart is “qalb” which means “that which turns”. This definition is profound because the heart does seem to turn. Sometimes it feels open and full, other times it feels contracted and empty—oftentimes for no reason we can identify. Sometimes the heart faces the world and is overly influenced by externals that disturb it; other times the heart faces the Source within and finds itself at peace despite whatever is happening on the outside.
In Layer 2, the heart begins to free itself from the demands of the grasping ego. It is in Layer 2 that the expansive feelings of unconditional love, joy, compassion, awe, prayerfulness, gratitude, the appreciation of beauty, serenity and contentment are experienced. Greater sensitivity and the ability to attune to subtle shifts in feeling, atmosphere, mood (your’s or others’) come in at this layer.
Layer 3: the soul. This layer is less personal than Layer 2 and even further removed from an ego-based perspective. Sufis teach that it is in the soul where our spiritual jewels or divine qualities reside in seed form. The divine qualities are the archetypes that find expression in the world in manifold ways. Expressions of power, love, wisdom, justice and patience are examples of the divine qualities made manifest, although usually they are distorted by the personal heart and the ego. There is a deep stillness and profound silence to be experienced in the depths of Layer 3 that contrasts with the waves of emotion closer to the surface in Layer 2 of the heart.
Layer 4: the secret. What is the secret? According to the Sufis, it is the truth of our oneness or unity with the Divine. It is difficult to use words to describe this experience. At Layer 4, the bubble of the separate self dissolves and transforms into the Ocean. All definitions of ourselves—“I am this”, “I am that”—are experienced as temporary illusions that veil us from the reality of our true Self.
Each layer of the heart has a corresponding inner “voice” that whispers advice in our ear and urges us to take certain actions based on its own perspective. Sufi learn to discriminate between these voices, to distinguish between the voice of the “nafs”, for instance, and the voice of the deep heart.
So how can this Sufi map of the heart be applied to relationships?
When in relationship, particularly in romantic relationships, the first three layers of each person’s heart, consciously and unconsciously, come into contact. When in the throes of “falling in love”, the average person experiences feelings from Layer 2 at a deeper level than he/she usually does on their own. Those expansive feelings tend to recede after a few months because they are dependent on an outside source. Then the relationship gradually settles into default mode, an arrangement where person A’s heart Layer 1 is relating to person’s B’s heart Layer 1. In other words, ego to ego.
That can work as long as each person’s ego needs—for affection, passion, attention, security, material goods, laughter, excitement, whatever--- are getting mostly fulfilled. But let something important change in that formula and then there’s trouble. “My needs are no longer getting met in this relationship” goes the old refrain. “You’re not the same as you used to be.”
Partners who are listening to the voice of their “nafs” will blame, punish the other in various ways, manipulate, dominate, submit, threaten and strive to control the emotional climate and amount of intimacy permitted in the relationship.
Sufis are taught how to access the deeper feelings in the 2nd layer of their hearts without relying on another person or “falling in love” to awaken that capacity. Every heart is thirsty for love but once you realize that the Source of the love is within you, then you stop seeking or demanding it from another person. That doesn’t mean Sufis become self-sufficient, no longer interested in relationships.
The shift that occurs is that a Sufi shares the love with a partner that he/she is already getting internally from the Source. When both partners are able to do that, then there is a qualitative difference in the nature of the relationship--it’s lighter, sweeter, deeper, more expansive, with much less conflict of wills than in ego-based relationships.
Sufis are experts on the inner landscape of the heart.
Sufis say it is only in the awakened heart that we can begin to taste and experience our true divine nature.
The great Sufi mystics of the past gave us a model or map of the heart’s road that leads back to the Source.
Early writers such as al-Hakim al –Timiridh describes four primary layers of the heart, and subsequent writers elaborated on the 28 “stations” or subdivisions of the four primary layers of the heart.
For the sake of simplicity, I have found the “four-layers of the heart” model to be an extremely useful and timeless spiritual perspective on all aspects of my life, especially for understanding relationships.
Put simply, the four layers of the heart are as follows:
Layer 1: the uppermost layer of the heart, or the ego self. Layer 1 is where the ego is rooted in the heart; it is the emotional underpinnings of the ego. We all need a healthy ego to function in the world but the downside comes from the ego needing to be in control, to dominate, criticize, put itself first, to grasp and horde. The Sufi word for the lower tendencies of the ego is “the nafs”. The ego uses emotions from the surface layer of the heart—such as anger, jealousy, fear—to fuel and justify its limited and separative view of itself and the world.
The ego also has a higher side—the rational mind with its capacity for logic and objectivity. The rational mind can hold and reflect a certain degree of spiritual light, according to the Sufis, if it is connected to the deeper layers of the heart.
Layer 2: the inner heart. In Arabic, the word for heart is “qalb” which means “that which turns”. This definition is profound because the heart does seem to turn. Sometimes it feels open and full, other times it feels contracted and empty—oftentimes for no reason we can identify. Sometimes the heart faces the world and is overly influenced by externals that disturb it; other times the heart faces the Source within and finds itself at peace despite whatever is happening on the outside.
In Layer 2, the heart begins to free itself from the demands of the grasping ego. It is in Layer 2 that the expansive feelings of unconditional love, joy, compassion, awe, prayerfulness, gratitude, the appreciation of beauty, serenity and contentment are experienced. Greater sensitivity and the ability to attune to subtle shifts in feeling, atmosphere, mood (your’s or others’) come in at this layer.
Layer 3: the soul. This layer is less personal than Layer 2 and even further removed from an ego-based perspective. Sufis teach that it is in the soul where our spiritual jewels or divine qualities reside in seed form. The divine qualities are the archetypes that find expression in the world in manifold ways. Expressions of power, love, wisdom, justice and patience are examples of the divine qualities made manifest, although usually they are distorted by the personal heart and the ego. There is a deep stillness and profound silence to be experienced in the depths of Layer 3 that contrasts with the waves of emotion closer to the surface in Layer 2 of the heart.
Layer 4: the secret. What is the secret? According to the Sufis, it is the truth of our oneness or unity with the Divine. It is difficult to use words to describe this experience. At Layer 4, the bubble of the separate self dissolves and transforms into the Ocean. All definitions of ourselves—“I am this”, “I am that”—are experienced as temporary illusions that veil us from the reality of our true Self.
Each layer of the heart has a corresponding inner “voice” that whispers advice in our ear and urges us to take certain actions based on its own perspective. Sufi learn to discriminate between these voices, to distinguish between the voice of the “nafs”, for instance, and the voice of the deep heart.
So how can this Sufi map of the heart be applied to relationships?
When in relationship, particularly in romantic relationships, the first three layers of each person’s heart, consciously and unconsciously, come into contact. When in the throes of “falling in love”, the average person experiences feelings from Layer 2 at a deeper level than he/she usually does on their own. Those expansive feelings tend to recede after a few months because they are dependent on an outside source. Then the relationship gradually settles into default mode, an arrangement where person A’s heart Layer 1 is relating to person’s B’s heart Layer 1. In other words, ego to ego.
That can work as long as each person’s ego needs—for affection, passion, attention, security, material goods, laughter, excitement, whatever--- are getting mostly fulfilled. But let something important change in that formula and then there’s trouble. “My needs are no longer getting met in this relationship” goes the old refrain. “You’re not the same as you used to be.”
Partners who are listening to the voice of their “nafs” will blame, punish the other in various ways, manipulate, dominate, submit, threaten and strive to control the emotional climate and amount of intimacy permitted in the relationship.
Sufis are taught how to access the deeper feelings in the 2nd layer of their hearts without relying on another person or “falling in love” to awaken that capacity. Every heart is thirsty for love but once you realize that the Source of the love is within you, then you stop seeking or demanding it from another person. That doesn’t mean Sufis become self-sufficient, no longer interested in relationships.
The shift that occurs is that a Sufi shares the love with a partner that he/she is already getting internally from the Source. When both partners are able to do that, then there is a qualitative difference in the nature of the relationship--it’s lighter, sweeter, deeper, more expansive, with much less conflict of wills than in ego-based relationships.
A Sufi not only feeds the heart of his/her beloved but also strives to be a “container” during the times when the partner’s heart is contracted with difficult feelings. This means staying grounded in one’s own inner connection to the Source while “being there” for the other. Sufis learn the art of intuitive listening and the deeper skill of literally feeling into the heart of another person.
When your partner is talking, you listen not only to the words but, with inner ears and inner eyes, to the condition of the partner’s heart. Healing love energy can be sent into the specific places in the other person’s heart where there is pain. This is done without giving advice which usually comes from the head and not the heart. I recall a trained Sufi healer and friend saying to me once, as I was sharing some difficult feelings, “Joe, when I look into your heart, here is what I see.” And then she told me what she saw and it was totally accurate but not at all evident from the words I was speaking. I never felt so understood.
In this kind of relationship, person A’s heart Layer 2 is primarily relating to person’s B’s heart Layer 2. In other words, deep heart to deep heart. The exchange of love is much more unconditional because the giving is not dependent on what you are receiving from the other person, but rather it is a sharing of what is received from the Source.
Partners listening to the voice of their deep heart will strive to understand, nurture, forgive, provide support, be generous with appreciation, and express their love in novel and creative ways. A Sufi friend of mine occasionally arranges surprise holidays for he and his wife--she doesn’t know where they are going until they get on the plane. Is it possible to actually see and experience your partner’s soul, to see beyond their personality to the spark of divinity that lies at Level 3 of their heart? This is what the great spiritual masters through the ages do. They are not interested in your personality, they are only interested in watering the seeds of your divinity that they can see in your soul. This ability is latent in all of us.
Of course you will only see in others what you see in yourself. Although there are certain moments when insight into the soul of another comes as a gift-- I have spoken to mothers who say that during pregnancy or shortly after birth, they became aware of their child’s soul, the unique divine essence inhabiting the physical body of the child. Some could see the beautiful light that the child’s soul carried with it into the physical plane.
Two people can live together for decades and never really know each other’s deep heart or soul. One way to do this is during meditation when you are feeling connected to your own soul. Then spend a few moments traveling inwards and try to “see” your partner’s soul. A Sufi teacher I know conducted family workshops where one of the exercises was for the parent to do that and to send love to their son or daughter’s (who were not present) soul. It was not uncommon for a mom or dad to report back later that their teenager, who they had been in conflict with, had run up to them upon returning home and say with a big hug “I love you, mom!”, “I love you, dad!” You can communicate with your partner’s or to a family member’s soul. You just have to connect to your own soul first and then move around in the borderless world of the 3rd layer of your heart to connect to the soul of a loved one.
Partners listening to the voice of their soul at heart Level 3 will support and encourage their partner’s spiritual growth. They meditate together, read inspiring spiritual literature to each other such as Rumi poetry, attend workshops with a spiritual theme together, do community service together or simply delight in the sparkle in their beloved’s eyes that comes from his or her’s joyful connection to the Source.
Sufis marry for the sole (soul) purpose of supporting each other on their journey Home. Experiencing the 4th layer of the heart, the secret, is an individual achievement. The 4th layer of the heart is deepest place within us that no one else can enter except the Real Beloved. You can’t take another person there or go there with them. Two souls can temporarily merge as one in sexual union or at other times but that is not the final goal. Sufis understand this and therefore do not place unrealistic expectations on their partner. Unending union with the partner is not the goal; whereas unending union with the Real Beloved is. Knowing this fosters a healthy sense of spiritual independence rather than co-dependence.
Partners listening to the silent voice of the secret at heart Layer 4 keep that part of themselves hidden from everyone except the Real Beloved. No other human being can go there. It’s the secret garden. In Sufi relationships, everything is given but something essential is withheld. That is why they work---because Sufis are married not only to each other but to the Real Beloved within.
What if one partner is a Sufi, and the other person isn’t a Sufi? Will it still work?
Love is self-communicative. The partner with a Sufi perspective can awaken the other’s deep heart and touch his/her soul with or without their conscious knowledge or participation.
When your partner is talking, you listen not only to the words but, with inner ears and inner eyes, to the condition of the partner’s heart. Healing love energy can be sent into the specific places in the other person’s heart where there is pain. This is done without giving advice which usually comes from the head and not the heart. I recall a trained Sufi healer and friend saying to me once, as I was sharing some difficult feelings, “Joe, when I look into your heart, here is what I see.” And then she told me what she saw and it was totally accurate but not at all evident from the words I was speaking. I never felt so understood.
In this kind of relationship, person A’s heart Layer 2 is primarily relating to person’s B’s heart Layer 2. In other words, deep heart to deep heart. The exchange of love is much more unconditional because the giving is not dependent on what you are receiving from the other person, but rather it is a sharing of what is received from the Source.
Partners listening to the voice of their deep heart will strive to understand, nurture, forgive, provide support, be generous with appreciation, and express their love in novel and creative ways. A Sufi friend of mine occasionally arranges surprise holidays for he and his wife--she doesn’t know where they are going until they get on the plane. Is it possible to actually see and experience your partner’s soul, to see beyond their personality to the spark of divinity that lies at Level 3 of their heart? This is what the great spiritual masters through the ages do. They are not interested in your personality, they are only interested in watering the seeds of your divinity that they can see in your soul. This ability is latent in all of us.
Of course you will only see in others what you see in yourself. Although there are certain moments when insight into the soul of another comes as a gift-- I have spoken to mothers who say that during pregnancy or shortly after birth, they became aware of their child’s soul, the unique divine essence inhabiting the physical body of the child. Some could see the beautiful light that the child’s soul carried with it into the physical plane.
Two people can live together for decades and never really know each other’s deep heart or soul. One way to do this is during meditation when you are feeling connected to your own soul. Then spend a few moments traveling inwards and try to “see” your partner’s soul. A Sufi teacher I know conducted family workshops where one of the exercises was for the parent to do that and to send love to their son or daughter’s (who were not present) soul. It was not uncommon for a mom or dad to report back later that their teenager, who they had been in conflict with, had run up to them upon returning home and say with a big hug “I love you, mom!”, “I love you, dad!” You can communicate with your partner’s or to a family member’s soul. You just have to connect to your own soul first and then move around in the borderless world of the 3rd layer of your heart to connect to the soul of a loved one.
Partners listening to the voice of their soul at heart Level 3 will support and encourage their partner’s spiritual growth. They meditate together, read inspiring spiritual literature to each other such as Rumi poetry, attend workshops with a spiritual theme together, do community service together or simply delight in the sparkle in their beloved’s eyes that comes from his or her’s joyful connection to the Source.
Sufis marry for the sole (soul) purpose of supporting each other on their journey Home. Experiencing the 4th layer of the heart, the secret, is an individual achievement. The 4th layer of the heart is deepest place within us that no one else can enter except the Real Beloved. You can’t take another person there or go there with them. Two souls can temporarily merge as one in sexual union or at other times but that is not the final goal. Sufis understand this and therefore do not place unrealistic expectations on their partner. Unending union with the partner is not the goal; whereas unending union with the Real Beloved is. Knowing this fosters a healthy sense of spiritual independence rather than co-dependence.
Partners listening to the silent voice of the secret at heart Layer 4 keep that part of themselves hidden from everyone except the Real Beloved. No other human being can go there. It’s the secret garden. In Sufi relationships, everything is given but something essential is withheld. That is why they work---because Sufis are married not only to each other but to the Real Beloved within.
What if one partner is a Sufi, and the other person isn’t a Sufi? Will it still work?
Love is self-communicative. The partner with a Sufi perspective can awaken the other’s deep heart and touch his/her soul with or without their conscious knowledge or participation.
Research at Heartmath has demonstrated that the heart of a person feeling love or appreciation sends out frequency waves that alters the brain and heart rhythms of another person within a measureable distance of five feet (the distance is probably greater, the physical equipment is limited to a short range).
Thank you Josie for reminding us all of the passion of Sufi wisdom,
Appreciate your gentle, fun guidance.
Txx
Thank you Josie for reminding us all of the passion of Sufi wisdom,
Appreciate your gentle, fun guidance.
Txx
Love is essentially self-communicative;
those who do not have it catch it from those who have it.
those who do not have it catch it from those who have it.
Those who receive love from others cannot be its recipients without
giving a response that, in itself, is the nature of love.
True love is unconquerable and irresistible.
It goes on gathering power and spreading itself until
eventually it transforms everyone it touches.
Humanity will attain a new mode of being and life through
the free and unhampered interplay of pure love from heart to heart.”
by Meher Baba
Sunday, January 18, 2015
Run With The Wolf.
"Some people mistake being loving for being a sap.
Quite the contrary,
the most loving people are often the most fierce
the most loving people are often the most fierce
and the most acutely armed for battle...
for they care about preserving and protecting poetry,
symphonic song, ideas, the elements, creatures, inventions,
hopes and dreams, dances and holiness...
those goodly endeavours that cannot be allowed
to perish from this earth,
to perish from this earth,
else humanity itself would perish..."
"Having a lover / friend
who regards you as a living growing criatura,
being,
just as much as the tree from the ground,
or a ficus in the house,
or a rose garden out in the side yard...
having a lover and friends
who look at you as a true living breathing entity,
one that is human
but made of very fine and moist and magical things as well...
a lover and friends
who support the criatura in you...
these are the people you are looking for.
They will be the friends of your soul for life.
Mindful choosing of friends and lovers,
not to mention teachers,
is critical to remaining conscious,
remaining intuitive,
remaining in charge of the
fiery light that sees and knows."
by
by
Phd
is Mestiza Latina [Native American/ Mexica Spanish],
presently in her seventies.
She grew up in the now vanished oral tradition of
her immigrant,
refugee families who could not read nor write, or did so
haltingly,
and for whom English was their third language overlying their
ancient
natal languages.
Watch How The Flower Blooms
In such times of shifting values,
what remains standing is that which holds its worth under any
degree of pressure or scrutiny.
Be steady. Be true.
Be an anchor and you'll never keel.
Be an anchor and you'll never keel.
Vibrant ~ Light ~ Exquisite
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